Evil eyes
When the tabooed period of 40 days passes after the birth (četeresnica) the young mother can visit neighbours and relatives with the child. Where ever she appears with the child the customs are that one needs to give him an egg as a gift - a sign of strength and fertility. The customs are also that whosoever sees the child for the first time needs to give him money as a gift. The women from that household lift the child in the air in order for him to grow repeating the words "mašallah", in fear that they won't jinx the child with their eyes. But if it happens that the someone's spellbound eyes hurt the child and the child starts crying and being restless for no reason, the mother licks him from the tip of his nose to his forehead uttering: "Keleuzu bir abirfeleki mi šeri mahalaka ve mi šeri mahalaka. Gasikin, gasikin, gasikin".
Teeth growth
The one who first sees a tooth growing in the child's mouth is obliged to give him a shirt as a gift or some other clothing item and utter:"Koliko žica, toliko godinica!" (The number of threads in the clothing item, that's how many years of life the person wishes to him).
The one who first sees a tooth growing in the child's mouth is obliged to give him a shirt as a gift or some other clothing item and utter:"Koliko žica, toliko godinica!" (The number of threads in the clothing item, that's how many years of life the person wishes to him).
Circumcision (lat. Circumcisio)
The ritual circumcision of male children in Bosnia is called sunet or sunećenje. Circumcision was done on boys aged 40 days up to two years. In the past sunet was practiced during the warmer part of the year, usually from March to September. The ritual was done by a berber while in the past 30-40 years the procedure has been performed by a doctor. After he would do the circumcision berber would be paid in cash and given a gift. As the sunet represented a special occasion, the tradition was to prepare a festive meal and to invite the neighbours and the Imam. After the meal, before the guests leave, they would give the boy money as a gift. Money was especially considered to be lucky (berićetan) and it was used to buy dishes or livestock which was considered to be the heritage of that boy. The circumcised skin of the penis was dried up by the father would ground up and fed to the rooster "in order for the boy to be as potent as a rooster."
The ritual circumcision of male children in Bosnia is called sunet or sunećenje. Circumcision was done on boys aged 40 days up to two years. In the past sunet was practiced during the warmer part of the year, usually from March to September. The ritual was done by a berber while in the past 30-40 years the procedure has been performed by a doctor. After he would do the circumcision berber would be paid in cash and given a gift. As the sunet represented a special occasion, the tradition was to prepare a festive meal and to invite the neighbours and the Imam. After the meal, before the guests leave, they would give the boy money as a gift. Money was especially considered to be lucky (berićetan) and it was used to buy dishes or livestock which was considered to be the heritage of that boy. The circumcised skin of the penis was dried up by the father would ground up and fed to the rooster "in order for the boy to be as potent as a rooster."
First haircut of the child
Bosnian people would give their child a first haircut between the ages 3 to 6, when the father is able to buy him a hat or a fez. Until that moment the child's hair would be trimmed above the eyes, on the forehead. The first ritual haircut was done in spring, when the forest turns green. A local barber (berber) is called, who receives a scarf, shirt or another item as a gift after cutting the hair. The cut off hair is wrapped in paper and is kept in a secret place in the house or it was kept until the pilgrimage to Mecca when the father or another family member could take it with him. The hair also refers to Ajvatovica, a holly place for the Muslims in BIH, or it would be placed in the mosque near a window.
Bosnian people would give their child a first haircut between the ages 3 to 6, when the father is able to buy him a hat or a fez. Until that moment the child's hair would be trimmed above the eyes, on the forehead. The first ritual haircut was done in spring, when the forest turns green. A local barber (berber) is called, who receives a scarf, shirt or another item as a gift after cutting the hair. The cut off hair is wrapped in paper and is kept in a secret place in the house or it was kept until the pilgrimage to Mecca when the father or another family member could take it with him. The hair also refers to Ajvatovica, a holly place for the Muslims in BIH, or it would be placed in the mosque near a window.
First cut nails
When the mother cuts the child's nails for the first time, she wraps them up in a piece of paper and hands them to her husband or another family member to bring them into the mosque during Friday. He secretly leaves them under the rug in the mosque in the wish that his child will be a good pupil once he starts school.
When the mother cuts the child's nails for the first time, she wraps them up in a piece of paper and hands them to her husband or another family member to bring them into the mosque during Friday. He secretly leaves them under the rug in the mosque in the wish that his child will be a good pupil once he starts school.
Godfather and the name change
If the child is sick or slow developing in the first months of his life, then during the first seven days of the moon phase the parents take out their child early in the morning, before sunrise, on a road or an intersection. They bring scissors and a gift with them which they will give to the first person that comes their way. The passerby is asked to cut a strand of the child's hair with the scissors. The strand of hair is wrapped in a piece of paper and is later buried under a young pear or apple tree. In such a case the passerby becomes the child's haircut godfather (šišani kum). The family keeps a friendly relationship with him and invites him for the child's birthday. Besides this the ritual of name change was also practiced. A mother would take her child to a crossroad, bring two apples to which she would give names which she choose for her child. To a first passerby she would offer an apple for them to take home. The apple that would stay with the mother would determine the new name of the child.
If the child is sick or slow developing in the first months of his life, then during the first seven days of the moon phase the parents take out their child early in the morning, before sunrise, on a road or an intersection. They bring scissors and a gift with them which they will give to the first person that comes their way. The passerby is asked to cut a strand of the child's hair with the scissors. The strand of hair is wrapped in a piece of paper and is later buried under a young pear or apple tree. In such a case the passerby becomes the child's haircut godfather (šišani kum). The family keeps a friendly relationship with him and invites him for the child's birthday. Besides this the ritual of name change was also practiced. A mother would take her child to a crossroad, bring two apples to which she would give names which she choose for her child. To a first passerby she would offer an apple for them to take home. The apple that would stay with the mother would determine the new name of the child.
- Festive meal
The child's first steps represent an ideal opportunity for a festivity and the mother prepares gurabije (a dry cake) and maslenica and calls the neighbours over for a meal. However if the child is slow to start walking, the mother prepares the dough for maslenica, stretches it with her hands across the sofra (a table which is used to prepare the dough as well as for eating meals) and then holding the child by its hands she walks him across the maslenica. After the child leaves his footprints in the dough, the mother finishes the maslenica and bakes it in the oven. When the maslenica is baked and left to cool all of the inhabitants of a household eat it during lunch, in order to "eat" the child's fear and laziness and in such a way help him to start walking.
